Women’s Spaces Radio Show of October 3, 2022 with host Elaine B Holtz’s Comments and guest Sarah Kerlow on the Need for Piqui’s Law to Reform Family Court on Child Custody and Domestic Violence has been uploaded to the web archive. The show was broadcast in the North SF Bay and streamed worldwide over Radio KBBF 89.1 FM on Monday 10/3/2022 at 11 AM, repeats at 11 PM on KBBF, and then repeat broadcasts in Petaluma and streamed worldwide over Radio KPCA 103.3 FM on the following Wednesday 10/5/2022 at 11 AM.
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The Need for Piqui’s Law to Reform Family Court on Child Custody and Domestic Violence
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Featuring
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1. Commentary by Elaine B. Holtz,Hostof Women’s Spaces
2. Guest Sarah Kerlow, Domestic Violence Survivor and Advocate for Family Court Reform
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1. Commentary by Elaine B. Holtz: October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I have a special guest joining me in the studio. Sarah Kerlow an advocate for Domestic Violence Prevention who is also a survivor of Domestic Violence. We will be talking about Domestic Violence and The Family Court Awareness Month which will be happening in November. I plan to feature the co-founders of the Family Court Awareness Month on the show of November 7th to talk more about this topic.
Family Court Awareness Month was created in 2020 by Tina Within, founder of One Mom’s Battle. The goal of Family Court Awareness Month is to shine a spotlight on systemic issues that are placing children in harm’s way. In collaboration with Sandra Ross of California Protective Parents Association, the inaugural year was memorialized with a cross-country tour that started in California and ended in North Carolina. Along the way, Swithin stopped in seven major cities to meet with media, domestic violence advocates, family court professionals, and with survivors of post separation abuse. Click here for our history. We declared November as Family Court Awareness Month!
Source: https://familycourtawarenessmonth.org/
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2. Our Guest Sarah Kerlow shares her personal experience with the Family Court process, which appears to operate on the assumption that 50% child custody for each parent must occur, even if a spouse is accused of domestic violence and there is a history of restraining orders. Piqui’s Law, Keeping Children Safe from Family Violence, is named for a 5-year-old murdered by his father. The boy’s mother, Ana Estevez, fought in family court to protect her son against her ex-husband before Piqui’s death. The bill was introduced by CA State Senator Susan Rubio as SB616, was passed by the CA Assembly in August 2022, but apparently needs work to pass as a final bill. Listeners are urged to contact their state senator and assemblyperson to urge them to pass Piqui’s Law. Sarah cites the Center for Judicial Excellence, whose “mission is to protect vulnerable children in the family court system and to strengthen the integrity of all courts by creating judicial accountability,” that women and children are still viewed as inferior to men. Sarah talks of the high cost to the divorced mother to protect her children imposed by the Family Court industry of consultants and advisors. She believes there should be a Children’s Bill of Rights to protect children from the domestic violence of a divorced spouse.
About our Guest: Sarah Kerlow describes herself as a single mother-Domestic Violence survivor-activist-scholar. She holds a master’s degree in human Rights Education and is currently finishing a Doctorate in Education at University of San Francisco She has been, and continues to be, inspired, and humbled by those ordinarily extraordinary women in her life; namely survivor warrior mamas who work tirelessly to protect, honor, and nurture their children. As a survivor herself of domestic violence she is still is subjected to her abuser through the court ordered and court sanctioned violence against her children, as her abuser still retains 50-50 custody. Her deep belief is that to address the myriad human rights violations taking place against women and children in the family court, we must create, support, and embrace survivor-led initiatives, organizations, and legislation. Her greatest joy and accomplishment are mothering her five incredible children.
Guest Links:
Family Court Awareness Month website: https://familycourtawarenessmonth.org/
Center for Judicial Excellence website: https://centerforjudicialexcellence.org/
California Protective Parents Association website: https://www.caprotectiveparents.org/
One Mom’s Battle website: www.onemomsbattle.com
Sarah Kerlow’s email: SarahEKerlow (at) gmail.com
Reference Links:
Piqui’s Law: Keeping Children Safe from Family Violence, SB616:
Click Here for Legislation status on ca.gov website :
10 Myths about Custody and Domestic Violence and How to Counter Them, American Bar Association Commssion on Domestic Violence, Click Here to download pdf.
The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris, MD. – available at bookstores. Review of the book by the Permanent Journal: www.thepermanentejournal.org/doi/10.7812/TPP/18-075
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Our history is our strength. Check out important dates to remember in herstory at the National Women’s History Alliance
Herstory Event:
October 3, 1904 – Mary McLeod Bethune opens her first school for African American students in Daytona Beach, Florida.
October 4, 1993 – Ruth Bader Ginsburg joins the U.S. Supreme Court as its second woman Justice.
October 8, 1993 – Toni Morrison becomes the first African American woman to win the Nobel Prize for Literature.
Herstory Birthdays:
October 3, 1897 (1982) – Ruth Bronson, Bureau of Indian Affairs official who got loans for Indian students, National Congress of American Indians forced authorities to honor treaties (1944), wrote Indians are People, Too.
October 6, 1917 (1977) – Fannie Lou Hamer, civil rights leader and voting rights crusader, helped organize the Mississippi Freedom Summer (1964). Fannie Lou Hamer’s tombstone in her hometown of Ruleville, Mississippi is inscribed with her famous quote, “I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.”
Fannie Lou Hamer (1917-1977) was a civil rights activist whose passionate depiction of her own suffering in a racist society helped focus attention on the plight of African Americans throughout the South. In 1964, working with the Student Non-Violent Coordinating Committee (SNCC), Hamer helped organize the 1964 Freedom Summer African American voter registration drive in her native Mississippi. At the Democratic National Convention later that year, she was part of the Mississippi Freedom Democratic Party, an integrated group of activists who openly challenged the legality of Mississippi’s all-white, segregated delegation.
Source: https://www.history.com/topics/black-history/fannie-lou-hamer
Announcements
Thursday, October 6, 6:30 PM, Healdsburg City Candidate Forum and Townhall, Healdsburg Performing Arts Theater (dba Raven Theater), 115 North Street, Healdsburg, CA. Hosted by the American Association of University Women (AAUW) and the Raven Theater. Free/gratis. https://healdsburg-ca.aauw.net/
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Saturday, October 8, 2022, 11 AM – 3 PM, Rincon Valley Community Park. Together We Saved Athena House, Join us for a BBQ Potluck Celebration, RSVP with Jasmine Palmer at 707-596-1701
or email her: Keepinghope_alive (at) outlook.com
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Saturday, October 8, 2022, 6 PM to 7 PM, Women’s Wave Rally and March, Old Courthouse Square, Santa Rosa, CA,
Women’s Wave Organizer: Marina Jurema mmjurema@yahoo.com announces:
I will be hosting a rally in solidarity with the Women’s March happening in DC on 10/8. (womensmarch.com) Cities are marching and protesting nationwide! Our rally will be at the Old Courthouse Square at 6pm until roughly 7pm on Saturday, October 8th. The rally will be in solidarity with women worldwide with a focus on the women and people who can get pregnant across our country losing their rights,with the strictest bans mostly happening in the South. Bring signs encouraging people to vote, support women’s right to choose, and worldwide solidarity with the rights of women and the freedom to choose our own paths. Wear green and pink (if you can) for reproductive and women’s rights! There will also be a booth registering people to vote AND we will be raising money for The National Abortion Funds Network (abortionfunds.org/) and Fair Fight Action (fairfight.com)!! 2 great organizations fighting the good fights! You can check out the event and RSVP here: https://action.womensmarch.com/events/women-s-wave-173
As a side note, if anyone has a loud blue tooth speaker system they could bring that would be awesome and please email me.
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Note: Marina Jurema will be our guest on next Monday’s Women’s Spaces show, 10/10/2022, to report on the March and her experience as a first-time organizer.
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Thursday, October 6, 6:30 PM, Healdsburg City Candidate Forum and Townhall, Healdsburg Performing Arts Theater (dba Raven Theater), 115 North Street, Healdsburg, CA. Hosted by the American Association of University Women (AAUW) and the Raven Theater. Free/gratis. https://healdsburg-ca.aauw.net/
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Monday, October 10, 11am # repeats 11pm, the show will feature our first guest Jasmine Palmer on the saving of Athena House and our second guest Marina Jurema on the Women’s March, called Women’s Wave, that she organized on the previous Saturday, October 8th in Santa Rosa at Old Courthouse Square. Radio KBBF 89.1 FM, North SF Bay or live streaming at https://kbbf.org/live
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Wednesday, October 12, 11am, repeat of Monday’s show, will feature guest our first guest Jasmine Palmer on the saving of Athena House and our second guest Marina Jurema on the Women’s March, called Women’s Wave, that she organized on the previous Saturday, October 8th in Santa Rosa at Old Courthouse Square.. Radio KPCA 103.3 FM, Petaluma, CA. https://petalumacommunityaccess.org/kpca
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Monday October 17, 2022, 6:00-7:30 p.m. PST (note, time is earlier than normal), Sonoma County NOW Monthly Board and Membership Meeting via Zoom. For details see Events page of NOW Sonoma: http://nowsonoma.org/Events.html
Featuring guest speaker Rosita Stevens-Holsey, author, activist and niece of Rev. Dr. Pauli Murray, Civil Rights and Women’s Rights Attorney, Co-Founder of the National Organization for Women (NOW).
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Saturday, October 22, 2022, 4:00 PM, Andy’s Unity Park, at Moorland and West Robles, Santa Rosa, Memorial Meet-up. Andy Lopez’s family invites you to celebrate the lives of Andy Lopez and Kathleen Finigan. This will be the 9th anniversary of the killing of Andy by Deputy Erick Gelhaus. Kathleen, who died a few weeks ago and who like so many of you, fought courageously for justice for Andy. October 22nd is also the National Day of Protest to Stop Police Brutality, Repression and the Criminalization of a Generation.
The gathering will take place, as always, at Andy’s Unity Park, at Moorland and West Robles, the site of Andy’s killing. All are cordially invited – activists and friends and community. Celebrate activism and celebrate the lives of Andy and Kathleen.
If you want to bring a dish or a drink to share, please do. Music, poems, and songs are also encouraged. Organizations are also invited to set up tables. Activities for children and art are particularly welcome.
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November 3, 2022,8:30-10:00 AM, 2022 Wetzel Awards – Celebratory Breakfast, Dry Creek Kitchen, 317 Healdsburg Ave, Healdsburg, CA 95448, Phone: (707) 431-0330. RSVP as Limited Tickets are available at https://hfnsc.ejoinme.org/wetzel22-tickets .
A little History: Each year, the Healthcare Foundation presents the Wetzel Awards to highlight individuals who demonstrate a commitment to improving health and health equity in our community.
The Wetzel Community Leadership Award and Spirit of Wetzel
Award are named for the late Maggie and Harry Wetzel, longtime friends of the Healthcare Foundation and generous members of our community.
This years awards: The Leadership A wand recipient Herman J. Hernandez and the Spirit of Wetzel Award recipient Bernice Espinoza. These individuals demonstrate a commitment to equitable physical and mental health and are shining examples of how we can all make a difference in our community.
Source: https://healthcarefoundation.net/events/wetzel-awards-2022/
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Monday, November 7, 11am # repeats 11pm, the show will feature the co-founders of the Family Court Awareness Month. Radio KBBF 89.1 FM, North SF Bay or live streaming at https://kbbf.org/live
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Wednesday, November 9, 11am, repeat of Monday’s show, will feature the co-founders of the Family Court Awareness Month. Radio KPCA 103.3 FM, Petaluma, CA. https://petalumacommunityaccess.org/kpcaa>
Music Selections
The Opening and Closing Theme song The Woman in Your Life is You is done with permission of the Composer and Singer Alix Dobkin ((August 16, 1940 – May 19, 2021) Alix Dobkin death was just announced – Thank you for all you did for Lesbians to be recognized and Women to be honored. May you rest in peace. See our Interview with Alix Dobkin on 12/1/2014 and our Memorial to Alix Dobkin on 5/24/2021
The Woman in Your Life is You by Alix Dobkin from the album Living with Lavender Jane (2010 Women’s Wax Works) – www.alixdobkin.com
Warrior, sung by Demi Lovato from the album Demi (2013 Hollywood Records, Inc ).
We Are The Women, sung by Betsy Rose and the Women’s Chorus from the album Welcome to the Circle (Paper Crane Music).
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